Self-management not control.

The bride is relaxing ...

Last Saturday's bride was incredibly laid back.  All dressed up ready to go, there she was relaxing in the back row with her family, waiting for the wedding to begin.  Where is the groom at the same time?  Doing what he does best, organizing.  He is busy up front running the last minute practice for the wedding that is due to begin shortly.

Shouldn't the bride be nervously standing at the door to the church, waiting for her musical cue?  Shouldn't the groom know his place and be up the front, waiting for his bride?  Well, it is not happening that way here.  This scene before a wedding was most amusing and atypical for me and I was impressed.

The bride and the groom are both capable people, acting for their own good and as they so choose.  They are not simply fitting into stereotypical roles, even in 'wedding world' which is so highly controlled.  

...while the groom is organizing.  

Control?  Does it work?  People are never easily controlled, nor are they meant to be.  Those in authority may think they have the control but let us not fool ourselves.  There is no amount of control that can ultimately determine people.    

Who is running the show?   Well, maybe what is at play in life is good self-management and never control, or so I hope.