It's getting near Christmas

Well, it's Friday and I could be boring and talk about all my tasks and activities of the week but I won't.  Rather, in the midst of all the challenges and goings on here at the Bangkok Refugee Centre, what I saw was one of the staff wrapping up bottles in Christmas paper.

I said - Getting ready for Christmas?
To which she replied - Yes!  and with a smile.

There was the great song from "Mame" - We need a little Christmas and right now!
How true!  It is never too late or too early for Christmas to cheer up the soul and share a bit of laughter and friendship in the world.

Meanwhile, Happy Eid!!

A theology of failure?

I came across a quote from Paul Tillich that just appeals to me and my experience of life.  Here it is.

"Grace strikes us when we are in great pain and restlessness.  It strikes us when we walk through the dark valley of a meaningless and empty life. ...  It strikes us when our disgust for our own being, our indifference, our weakness, our hostility, and our lack of direction and composure have become intolerable to us.  It strikes us when, year after year, the longed-for perfection of life does not appear, when the old compulsions reign within us as they have for decades, when despair destroys all joy and courage."

Is this a theology of failure?  I don't think so.  It more captures our naked reality and speaks to it as it is.  It speaks to our confusion and chaos, helping us make sense of what is and not of some hoped for or proclaimed ideal which never seems to come. It speaks to the 'eternal Why' of our life - why am I still doing this?  why am I still like this? 

It speaks to me in the midst of another week which is just so demanding and full of so many challenges. 

Thanks Paul Tillich 

I need a day off

You know we can think how important we are and just how much the world needs us but then we get a timely reality check that puts us in our rightful place.

I had one of those reality checks yesterday.  Here I am going to UNHCR meetings, helping to organise better ways of helping urban refugees, being a tutor for three young Pakistanis doing their ACU course and then, in the midst of all this important activity, a Pakistani woman comes unannounced to my office.  Really, they can't be expected to make appointments but nevertheless I am just too busy for this intrusion which I so readily identify as yet another request for financial assistance. 

So what do I do?  I jump straight in so as to save time and start to explain to her about available help and what is possible.  I must say I did so politely.  But then she stopped me and said - Father, I don't want money.  My husband is in prison.  Then she just cried. 

My first thought was - I just stuffed this one.  This was my reality check.  I might be Fr John from whom ones seek for assistance or whom colleagues in refugee work call on, but you know what?  I must never lose sight of what really matters in the midst of  however much activity and seemingly important tasks I am involved in. 

The other message is that I need a day off for my good and the good of those I help and work with.  So that is what I am about to do.  Take a day off.  Wish me well in this most important task. 

A relationship is a long trip

Dan Berrigan wrote -
"Don't travel with someone who expects you to be exciting all the time!" 

I am no expert on relationships as I sure have my own issues and failings but there is wisdom worth noting here and it comes from Fr Ron Rolheiser omi as he delves into this insight.  He puts it this way. 
"The recognition that, in love, we cannot not disappoint each other is what makes it possible for us to remain inside of marriage, friendship, celibacy, and respect.  It's when we demand not to be disappointed that we grow angry, make unrealistic demands, and put pressure on each other's moral and sexual integrity.  Conversely, when we recognize the limits of love, when we accept an inevitable separateness, moral loneliness, and disappointment, we can begin to console each other in our friendships and our marriages."

Rolheiser is a wise man and writes so well.  So often I am just struck by what he shares in his short, poignant writings.  In the same article, he shares this one line, WOW statement.
"It's when we try to be captain of somebody else's soul that we rape someone."

Enough for today, I am sure.

Jinnah - father of a nation

I am presently working with three young and vibrant Pakistanis of the urban refugee population on a university course they have started thanks to ACU - Australian Catholic University. 

This week, they had a teacher with them from the university.  During her time, they were required to give an oral presentation on a world leader in history.  They chose Jinnah, the father of Pakistan.  He was the nation's founding Governor-General which was then a comprehensive political leadership role in a new democracy.  He was more than just a figure-head. 

As they spoke of him, they spoke of how much they admired a man of vision and true leadership for his people.  A focus of his vision for the new nation was that it be a place where people of all faiths could safely practice their religion. 

We then see Pakistan today and I wonder what happened.  It is a vision lost.  You could sense that as the three young Pakistanis gave their presentation.  They know the present reality and suffer because of it, all having had to flee with their families due to religious persecution.  For them, this is a great sadness but, as they spoke of Jinnah, they spoke with passion and pride.  The vision may have been lost but its spark is still there and the flame could be relit.  They know this because of their admiration and respect for their nation's founder.  This connection with a great man still gives them hope for their nation.  They still see that his vision could be grasped again and brought back to life for the good of Pakistan. 

A vision may be lost but it can always be relit.  That is hope.  This is true for any vision - not just the vision of a nation.