A relationship is a long trip

Dan Berrigan wrote -
"Don't travel with someone who expects you to be exciting all the time!" 

I am no expert on relationships as I sure have my own issues and failings but there is wisdom worth noting here and it comes from Fr Ron Rolheiser omi as he delves into this insight.  He puts it this way. 
"The recognition that, in love, we cannot not disappoint each other is what makes it possible for us to remain inside of marriage, friendship, celibacy, and respect.  It's when we demand not to be disappointed that we grow angry, make unrealistic demands, and put pressure on each other's moral and sexual integrity.  Conversely, when we recognize the limits of love, when we accept an inevitable separateness, moral loneliness, and disappointment, we can begin to console each other in our friendships and our marriages."

Rolheiser is a wise man and writes so well.  So often I am just struck by what he shares in his short, poignant writings.  In the same article, he shares this one line, WOW statement.
"It's when we try to be captain of somebody else's soul that we rape someone."

Enough for today, I am sure.