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| A Christmas scene in Bangkok |
The scene was that I was acting to help staff deal with a situation in the office. Obviously my presentation of my defence got her angry. I won't go into the issue but just say that as I spoke, I became aware that I did not know all the facts but only the facts made available to me. Whatever the case, all I was doing was trying to be helpful and explain matters when I was confronted by her anger, with the bottom line given to me - "I just do not understand you". I could honestly reply that I do not understand either. Why all this anger? I was not angry.
Then all this anger was lumped onto me and I found myself reacting inside with anger as why should I be getting this blast? I did my best to stand back and not get angry as vented anger goes nowhere and becomes counterproductive, expecially here where no one deals with confrontation. Yet, as I said at the time, it is good to get angry. I believe this even though anger is never easy.
And you know? Anger can produce positive results as it did in this case. The outcome was that there is spoken agreement that we don't understand each other and that we need to talk more. Maybe Christmas is the right time to have such a discussion as it leads to needed growth which never comes easily. It involves hard work and comes at a cost. There is no magical way.
Yes, I might want Christmas all year round but it has to be about much more than sweet sounding melodies and everyone being happy and nice. It does not happen by magic. It takes hard and uncomfortable work which will be done in the hope of creating of creating greater understanding. This speaks of a world that is more Christmassy, a world where people can somehow operate together, care for each other more and show each other a smile instead of a frown. Christmas is not about the simplistic and unreal approach of never crying and never pouting. So let Christmas roll on!
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